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		<title>By: Evelyn</title>
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		<dc:creator>Evelyn</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 03 Mar 2010 14:15:56 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Jeri,

I totally agree that this is now time for you to make your mark on the world, especially since I know you personally and know that you spent the first half of your life dedicated to raising your family and giving your three children wings to fly. Now it&#039;s your turn to fly and fly you are! Continue to be an inspiration to your clients, your friends, your family and the world at large. We need your special kind of sunshine!</description>
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<p>I totally agree that this is now time for you to make your mark on the world, especially since I know you personally and know that you spent the first half of your life dedicated to raising your family and giving your three children wings to fly. Now it&#8217;s your turn to fly and fly you are! Continue to be an inspiration to your clients, your friends, your family and the world at large. We need your special kind of sunshine!</p>
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		<title>By: Evelyn</title>
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		<dc:creator>Evelyn</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 03 Mar 2010 14:14:03 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Margareta,

What a wonderful idea to create a women&#039;s club to focus on women with fascinating life stories. And you&#039;re right - we can all create exciting and interesting lives having lived through all of life&#039;s lessons. At midlife we have learned so much, but we still have much to learn. We should continue to tell our stories and to be open to adventures and opportunities that come our way (or that we ourselves create) regardless of our age. Thank you so much for taking the time to comment on this post and to share some of what&#039;s happening in your home country.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Margareta,</p>
<p>What a wonderful idea to create a women&#8217;s club to focus on women with fascinating life stories. And you&#8217;re right &#8211; we can all create exciting and interesting lives having lived through all of life&#8217;s lessons. At midlife we have learned so much, but we still have much to learn. We should continue to tell our stories and to be open to adventures and opportunities that come our way (or that we ourselves create) regardless of our age. Thank you so much for taking the time to comment on this post and to share some of what&#8217;s happening in your home country.</p>
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		<title>By: Evelyn</title>
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		<dc:creator>Evelyn</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 03 Mar 2010 14:10:51 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Patricia, 

You bring up some really valid points about what potential employers might view as &quot;risky.&quot; When a strong, successful, competent woman comes along and wants to call the shots in terms of the kind of work she wants to do and the number of hours she wants to put into a job I think employers see a red flag. Is this someone who will commit to us? Is this someone who will give 100% when she is only willing to work so many hours? Also, if you were a successful consultant who is now looking to work in an assistant position, they may question your abilities since they might not be able to understand that for you it&#039;s all about balance, and living a fully engaged life. I have no doubt that you will get through this hurdle - when one door closes another one opens. I&#039;ve had that happen to me more than once. It doesn&#039;t mean I didn&#039;t feel disappointed or that I didn&#039;t question my abilities, but I had a strong faith that the right position would present itself and I needed to remain open to see it when it appeared.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Patricia, </p>
<p>You bring up some really valid points about what potential employers might view as &#8220;risky.&#8221; When a strong, successful, competent woman comes along and wants to call the shots in terms of the kind of work she wants to do and the number of hours she wants to put into a job I think employers see a red flag. Is this someone who will commit to us? Is this someone who will give 100% when she is only willing to work so many hours? Also, if you were a successful consultant who is now looking to work in an assistant position, they may question your abilities since they might not be able to understand that for you it&#8217;s all about balance, and living a fully engaged life. I have no doubt that you will get through this hurdle &#8211; when one door closes another one opens. I&#8217;ve had that happen to me more than once. It doesn&#8217;t mean I didn&#8217;t feel disappointed or that I didn&#8217;t question my abilities, but I had a strong faith that the right position would present itself and I needed to remain open to see it when it appeared.</p>
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		<title>By: Evelyn</title>
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		<dc:creator>Evelyn</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 03 Mar 2010 14:03:50 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>You&#039;re right Rosie, more than age, more than appearance, more than anything, we run the risk of becoming invisible at our own hand the most by letting fears get in our way. Sometimes we are our own worst enemy when it comes to recognizing what we have to offer and what we&#039;re capable of. We talk ourselves out of things not because we fear we will fail, but because we fear we will succeed. Many of us fear having that kind of light shine on us, but who are we to play small?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>You&#8217;re right Rosie, more than age, more than appearance, more than anything, we run the risk of becoming invisible at our own hand the most by letting fears get in our way. Sometimes we are our own worst enemy when it comes to recognizing what we have to offer and what we&#8217;re capable of. We talk ourselves out of things not because we fear we will fail, but because we fear we will succeed. Many of us fear having that kind of light shine on us, but who are we to play small?</p>
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		<title>By: Evelyn</title>
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		<dc:creator>Evelyn</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 03 Mar 2010 14:01:40 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Pam, 

Good for you! What an inspiration you are to so many - regardless of age or gender - about how to live life full out! I will be shamelessly promoting my book when it&#039;s finished and am a firm believer that if the mountain won&#039;t come to me, I&#039;ll go to it. Thanks for reading and commenting, and keep on rockin!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Pam, </p>
<p>Good for you! What an inspiration you are to so many &#8211; regardless of age or gender &#8211; about how to live life full out! I will be shamelessly promoting my book when it&#8217;s finished and am a firm believer that if the mountain won&#8217;t come to me, I&#8217;ll go to it. Thanks for reading and commenting, and keep on rockin!</p>
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		<title>By: Evelyn</title>
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		<dc:creator>Evelyn</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 03 Mar 2010 13:59:59 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Cathy: Thanks so much for being so open and honest about key challenges you&#039;re facing now, particularly in the employment area. Unfortunately I have heard this many times from many women (and men) who are in their 40s, 50s and 60s and looking for work. I am so impressed with your ability and determination to remain positive in the face of this challenge and to realize that your life is about more than just your job. There is a website called Branding50.com (www.branding50.com) that talks about how to brand yourself after age 50. If you&#039;re interested check it out and check out Marva Goldsmith&#039;s work in this area: &quot;In today&#039;s career marketplace, it is no longer appropriate to &quot;look for a job;&quot; you must brand yourself as a product in a very competitive marketplace.&quot; I wish you all the best and am confident that someone will be smart enough to recognize your talents. Please write again and let me know how things are going.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Cathy: Thanks so much for being so open and honest about key challenges you&#8217;re facing now, particularly in the employment area. Unfortunately I have heard this many times from many women (and men) who are in their 40s, 50s and 60s and looking for work. I am so impressed with your ability and determination to remain positive in the face of this challenge and to realize that your life is about more than just your job. There is a website called Branding50.com (www.branding50.com) that talks about how to brand yourself after age 50. If you&#8217;re interested check it out and check out Marva Goldsmith&#8217;s work in this area: &#8220;In today&#8217;s career marketplace, it is no longer appropriate to &#8220;look for a job;&#8221; you must brand yourself as a product in a very competitive marketplace.&#8221; I wish you all the best and am confident that someone will be smart enough to recognize your talents. Please write again and let me know how things are going.</p>
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		<title>By: Cathy</title>
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		<dc:creator>Cathy</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 03 Mar 2010 13:37:27 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Terrific article!  Do I feel invisible?  Sometimes, more particularly in the employment market.  I am 56 and have been unemployed over a year.  I have applied for so many jobs and can&#039;t even get a call back for an interview.  I feel strongly that my age has a lot to do with it.  I don&#039;t look my age, dress fashionably, keep up with current events, participate in outside activities, yet can&#039;t help feeling a little down over this situation.  I&#039;ve followed all the tips for the mature job seeker, listing my last 2 jobs only - which truthfully is a give away since one of the jobs lasted 18 years.  I&#039;ve listed my technology skills to not appear dated etc.  Followups have given me excuses (in my opinion) you&#039;re overqualified, this is an entry level position, the salary isn&#039;t commensurate with your experience.  So I continue to seek advice on how to become gainfully employed and make my age and experience a plus rather than a negative.

The other compartments of my life I do not feel invisible or inadequate.  A husband who thinks I&#039;m beautiful and sexy, grandchildren that think I&#039;m awesome, friends that fulfill me, all give me a positive feeling that  my life and I are terrific!  I participate in life full speed ahead and have no intention of being invisible, but being gainfully employed is an important piece of the mosaic that is my life.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Terrific article!  Do I feel invisible?  Sometimes, more particularly in the employment market.  I am 56 and have been unemployed over a year.  I have applied for so many jobs and can&#8217;t even get a call back for an interview.  I feel strongly that my age has a lot to do with it.  I don&#8217;t look my age, dress fashionably, keep up with current events, participate in outside activities, yet can&#8217;t help feeling a little down over this situation.  I&#8217;ve followed all the tips for the mature job seeker, listing my last 2 jobs only &#8211; which truthfully is a give away since one of the jobs lasted 18 years.  I&#8217;ve listed my technology skills to not appear dated etc.  Followups have given me excuses (in my opinion) you&#8217;re overqualified, this is an entry level position, the salary isn&#8217;t commensurate with your experience.  So I continue to seek advice on how to become gainfully employed and make my age and experience a plus rather than a negative.</p>
<p>The other compartments of my life I do not feel invisible or inadequate.  A husband who thinks I&#8217;m beautiful and sexy, grandchildren that think I&#8217;m awesome, friends that fulfill me, all give me a positive feeling that  my life and I are terrific!  I participate in life full speed ahead and have no intention of being invisible, but being gainfully employed is an important piece of the mosaic that is my life.</p>
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		<title>By: Pam Archer</title>
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		<dc:creator>Pam Archer</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 25 Feb 2010 03:28:56 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Evelyn,

This is an outstanding post!  I will be 60 in Nov. of this year.  Invisible??  Not me!  I&#039;m too futuristic and have too many dreams to become invisible.  If I have a goal, I press on until I have reached it.  This year I had had a book published, was called to Hollywood to film a series of exercise dvds with Donna Richardson Joyner, and have so many projects going I can&#039;t keep up with them.  

If one feels ivisible, stand up and do something proactive to prove that your best years are yet to come.  The media sometimes come to me, but more often, I am searching them out.

I you believe that age is a state of mind, you will never feel invisible.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Evelyn,</p>
<p>This is an outstanding post!  I will be 60 in Nov. of this year.  Invisible??  Not me!  I&#8217;m too futuristic and have too many dreams to become invisible.  If I have a goal, I press on until I have reached it.  This year I had had a book published, was called to Hollywood to film a series of exercise dvds with Donna Richardson Joyner, and have so many projects going I can&#8217;t keep up with them.  </p>
<p>If one feels ivisible, stand up and do something proactive to prove that your best years are yet to come.  The media sometimes come to me, but more often, I am searching them out.</p>
<p>I you believe that age is a state of mind, you will never feel invisible.</p>
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		<title>By: rosie</title>
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		<dc:creator>rosie</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 20 Feb 2010 19:58:50 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I think that if we are not careful we can become invisible under the cloak of fears, depression and anxiety. Freedom is knowing that we can breath in life of re-invention, refreshing ideas and restoring perspectives.
Thats for this thought challenging post!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I think that if we are not careful we can become invisible under the cloak of fears, depression and anxiety. Freedom is knowing that we can breath in life of re-invention, refreshing ideas and restoring perspectives.<br />
Thats for this thought challenging post!</p>
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		<title>By: Patricia</title>
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		<dc:creator>Patricia</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 18 Feb 2010 22:24:30 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Wow, Evelyn.  This is a *great* post and very well-written.  I hadn&#039;t considered this a concern in my case.  I am 42, and like one of the women above said, I don&#039;t look my age so I have gone about my merry way thinking it isn&#039;t an issue for me.  However, others have brought it to my attention that it may play a part in why I haven&#039;t secured a position since this recession began and I lost my last job.  Personally, I think it&#039;s because I am trying to downgrade my career to upgrade my life, meaning I used to be a well-paid consultant but now wish to take an assistant position so that I have more time to devote to my personal projects that just may become my career.  I get my foot in the door but once my background, salary history and resume are fully reviewed, I know I&#039;m seen as more of a risk than an asset.  Won&#039;t I leave as soon as something better comes along?

So, no, I don&#039;t *feel* invisible but I am concerned that I am seen more risky than someone newer to the market with more to prove than I.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Wow, Evelyn.  This is a *great* post and very well-written.  I hadn&#8217;t considered this a concern in my case.  I am 42, and like one of the women above said, I don&#8217;t look my age so I have gone about my merry way thinking it isn&#8217;t an issue for me.  However, others have brought it to my attention that it may play a part in why I haven&#8217;t secured a position since this recession began and I lost my last job.  Personally, I think it&#8217;s because I am trying to downgrade my career to upgrade my life, meaning I used to be a well-paid consultant but now wish to take an assistant position so that I have more time to devote to my personal projects that just may become my career.  I get my foot in the door but once my background, salary history and resume are fully reviewed, I know I&#8217;m seen as more of a risk than an asset.  Won&#8217;t I leave as soon as something better comes along?</p>
<p>So, no, I don&#8217;t *feel* invisible but I am concerned that I am seen more risky than someone newer to the market with more to prove than I.</p>
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