Comments on: It’s My Party and I’ll Cry If I Want To http://www.evelynkalinosky.com/blog/its-my-party-and-ill-cry-if-i-want-to/ Increase Your Sacred Capital Sat, 04 Feb 2012 13:13:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Evelyn http://www.evelynkalinosky.com/blog/its-my-party-and-ill-cry-if-i-want-to/comment-page-1/#comment-125 Evelyn Thu, 17 Dec 2009 00:16:20 +0000 http://www.evelynkalinosky.com/?p=1228#comment-125 Jeri: You are so right about the possibilities that exist for women when we are able to integrate the little girl and the strong, powerful woman inside. I really like the metaphor of the oposable thumb and haven't read Roger Martin's book "The Oposable Mind" but certainly will now. My goal in writing this particular post was to "walk the talk" and affirm that it's okay to be vulnerable and to allow that vulnerability to show. For people like me who were raised to stuff all negative thoughts or emotions it can be positively terrifying to "let it all hang out," but sometimes that's just exactly what we have to do in order to become more authentic, more powerful. Cathartic - exactly! I'm so blessed to have you in my life.... Evelyn Jeri:
You are so right about the possibilities that exist for women when we are able to integrate the little girl and the strong, powerful woman inside. I really like the metaphor of the oposable thumb and haven’t read Roger Martin’s book “The Oposable Mind” but certainly will now.

My goal in writing this particular post was to “walk the talk” and affirm that it’s okay to be vulnerable and to allow that vulnerability to show. For people like me who were raised to stuff all negative thoughts or emotions it can be positively terrifying to “let it all hang out,” but sometimes that’s just exactly what we have to do in order to become more authentic, more powerful. Cathartic – exactly!

I’m so blessed to have you in my life….

Evelyn

]]> By: Jeri http://www.evelynkalinosky.com/blog/its-my-party-and-ill-cry-if-i-want-to/comment-page-1/#comment-113 Jeri Mon, 14 Dec 2009 20:44:34 +0000 http://www.evelynkalinosky.com/?p=1228#comment-113 Evelyn, Oh, I'm so sorry that you didn't get to go to Orlando. I knew how much it meant to you. But you've always been one to see the silver lining and even create the silver lining. So it doesn't surprise me that this experience has unearthed more self-discovery and a whole new layer of choice, and an expanded perspective for coaching others. A great metaphor for understanding to make the third choice instead of only thinking of either/or is the oposable thumb. We have fingers, we have a thumb. Together they have real power because we can then grasp. 'The Oposable Mind' by Roger Martin is a great book that works with that metaphor. Just think of all you can grasp by integrating the little girl and the strong powerful woman. There will be other 'Oralndo's' and you will have a stronger presentation and be even more of an 'expert.' I applaud your strength, and your candor in this posting. Not everyone would have the guts to spill out a lot of vulnerable thoughts and feelings the way that you have here. I think it's probably cathartic for many others as well as yourself and it gives your readers permission to integrate their own 'little girl' with the woman each has become. Thank you. Evelyn,
Oh, I’m so sorry that you didn’t get to go to Orlando. I knew how much it meant to you. But you’ve always been one to see the silver lining and even create the silver lining. So it doesn’t surprise me that this experience has unearthed more self-discovery and a whole new layer of choice, and an expanded perspective for coaching others. A great metaphor for understanding to make the third choice instead of only thinking of either/or is the oposable thumb. We have fingers, we have a thumb. Together they have real power because we can then grasp. ‘The Oposable Mind’ by Roger Martin is a great book that works with that metaphor. Just think of all you can grasp by integrating the little girl and the strong powerful woman. There will be other ‘Oralndo’s’ and you will have a stronger presentation and be even more of an ‘expert.’ I applaud your strength, and your candor in this posting. Not everyone would have the guts to spill out a lot of vulnerable thoughts and feelings the way that you have here. I think it’s probably cathartic for many others as well as yourself and it gives your readers permission to integrate their own ‘little girl’ with the woman each has become. Thank you.

]]> By: Evelyn http://www.evelynkalinosky.com/blog/its-my-party-and-ill-cry-if-i-want-to/comment-page-1/#comment-98 Evelyn Wed, 09 Dec 2009 15:59:03 +0000 http://www.evelynkalinosky.com/?p=1228#comment-98 Thanks, Heidi! We definitely don't want to become stagnant do we? And you are so right about each of us being unique - we may have similar experiences, attitudes, beliefs, but no two people will frame everything the same way, and that's what makes interacting so important. By talking to another person who has had a similar experience but lived it through their own unique lens I am able to learn from them; connect with them; share with them. We help each other. We inspire each other. Thanks, Heidi!

We definitely don’t want to become stagnant do we? And you are so right about each of us being unique – we may have similar experiences, attitudes, beliefs, but no two people will frame everything the same way, and that’s what makes interacting so important. By talking to another person who has had a similar experience but lived it through their own unique lens I am able to learn from them; connect with them; share with them. We help each other. We inspire each other.

]]> By: Heidi Caswell http://www.evelynkalinosky.com/blog/its-my-party-and-ill-cry-if-i-want-to/comment-page-1/#comment-97 Heidi Caswell Wed, 09 Dec 2009 02:12:04 +0000 http://www.evelynkalinosky.com/?p=1228#comment-97 Evelyn, kudo's to you! That is a talent being able to recognize that in yourself, and moving onward. Inspires others who may become stuck. Each of us are unique with our own gifts, talents and baggage. Life is a trip, a journey. Those who avoid the journey become stagnant, at least until life drags them out kicking and screaming. You love and enjoy life too much to become stale. Thanks for the example you set and for sharing. Evelyn, kudo’s to you! That is a talent being able to recognize that in yourself, and moving onward. Inspires others who may become stuck. Each of us are unique with our own gifts, talents and baggage. Life is a trip, a journey. Those who avoid the journey become stagnant, at least until life drags them out kicking and screaming. You love and enjoy life too much to become stale. Thanks for the example you set and for sharing.

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