Comments on: Failure to Launch – Why Successful Women Sometimes Procrastinate

By: Virge Randall

Virge Randall — Tue, 27 Apr 2010 18:06:29 +0000

Wow. I just sent my taxes for 2008 last week. I have had problems with procrastination in the past and the last year has intensified them. In addition to the usual suspects – fear of failure, fear of success, past programming, etc. – I’ve been wrestling with my husband’s death. I was the junior partner and he made most of the big decisions. Being on my own now is so difficult. In the weeks after his death I had to make so many big decisions pretty much hour by hour for weeks at a time and I am just decisioned out. Thing is, I need to move my life forward but it’s just so exhausting and the person on whose judgement I relied more than anyone’s is gone. The only value of procrastination is that is forces one to make a decision and to make a move.

By: Evelyn

Evelyn — Mon, 26 Apr 2010 16:50:25 +0000

Renee,

I’m sorry to read that you’ve been struggling to get past an experience to such an extent that you feel it is paralyzing you. I’m happy to know that what I’ve written has given you some perspective, but if you’re interested in talking about more about this I offer complimentary 30 minute strategy sessions that are focused on one specific area of concern. If you’d be interested in scheduling such an appointment, please feel free to email me directly at evelyn@evelynkalinosky.com or visit my website: http://www.evelynkalinosky.com and click on the “Contact” button in the top right hand corner. Simply fill out the information and I will contact you to schedule some time together. Regardless of what you decide, I wish you all the best and thank you again for your comments.

By: Renee Yeager

Renee Yeager — Mon, 26 Apr 2010 16:28:26 +0000

Thank you for writing this. I’ve been struggling to get past an unexpected experience that has basically paralyzed me. Your post has given me some much needed perspective.

All the best to you,
Renee

By: Roxanne

Roxanne — Tue, 20 Apr 2010 14:15:28 +0000

Powerful message Evelyn! Everything you said so resonated with me it was almost scary. This will be great next time I start letting my mind go down that negative path of self flatulation.

By: Evelyn

Evelyn — Tue, 20 Apr 2010 11:40:14 +0000

Regina,

It’s funny how I so often worry that revealing certain things about myself will result in a negative backlash, but without fail, when I am transparent the responses are 99% positive. I think that when we’re honest about our struggles, our challenges, our feet of clay – these are the times when we are able to connect most with others. It makes us more human; more real; more approachable. I’m so glad that what I wrote resonated with you!

By: Evelyn

Evelyn — Tue, 20 Apr 2010 11:36:27 +0000

Pat – I love it! “God rested on the 7th day. Why shouldn’t we need a rest if He did?” I’ll definitely keep that in mind the next time I need to recharge! Thanks for reading, and better yet, thanks for commenting.

By: Evelyn

Evelyn — Tue, 20 Apr 2010 11:35:05 +0000

Eileen,

You are absolutely right about the down times being valuable and I love how you’ve found a way to turn the tendency we all have to look at any kind of down time as us being “lazy” or “unproductive” into something positive. Renew, refresh, revitalize – what a great mantra!

By: Regina Baker

Regina Baker — Sun, 18 Apr 2010 22:46:56 +0000

Ah… speak to me! This message is so real… I embraced it, as several parts resonate with my spirit and confirm the positive feelings I know to be true, and I quote you… “There are days, even weeks when I can’t see – really see – the woman I’ve become. The vision in my mind is blurry, obscured by the doubts and fears that overtake my mind the way the clouds obscure the sun. I’ve learned that who I want to be has more intensity, more significance than any false definition of who I used to be.”

Thank you! It’s Brilliant… for me!

By: Pat Montgomery

Pat Montgomery — Sun, 18 Apr 2010 21:50:47 +0000

Thanks for your honesty. What you have written applies to all of us at various times in our lives. And I love that you say it is okay. Just go and have some down time–after all God rested on the 7th day. Why shouldn’t we need a rest if He did?

By: Eileen Williams

Eileen Williams — Sun, 18 Apr 2010 15:48:34 +0000

Evelyn,

By sharing your own experiences so honestly and openly, you help many of us (your readers) move through our own periods of funk. For myself, I know I need stretches of total down time every so often. I can be very focused and push hard but, if I don’t get adequate rest and balance, I’ll feel overwhelmed and want to hide out for a couple of days. I’ve learned that these times can also be valuable because, by shutting everything out, I can come back renewed, refreshed, and revitalized.

Thanks for being so truthful and open. Now, I know I’m in good company!