Why Resolutions Alone Aren’t The Answer, Midlife Woman

by Evelyn Kalinosky on January 11, 2016

New year. New resolutions you’ve committed to that you may or may not be keeping, that may go by the wayside by Valentine’s Day, followed by the inevitable guilt and brow-beating your Inner Critic gives you for not sticking to “the plan.” I gave up making resolutions years ago when I realized I was setting myself up […]

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Through the Woods: Gratitude and a New Year

by Evelyn Kalinosky on December 31, 2015

It’s a tradition born out of circumstance. I rise early New Year’s Eve morning, just the other side of dawn when the invisible sun burns beyond the dark, cold sky and the world has yet to fully awaken. Slipping out from beneath warm covers, I pile on layer after layer of clothing, trying to insulate […]

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This Midlife Woman Doesn’t Live There Anymore

by Evelyn Kalinosky on December 4, 2015

I’m not sure if it’s because I found myself commenting recently on a friend’s Facebook post about how her life has changed as a result of her pending divorce, or if it’s because Thanksgiving harbors indelible memories of divorce arriving on my doorstep like an uninvited guest, but I’ve been ruminating about the past. And […]

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Fear is Boring, It’s a Drama Queen, a Diva

by Evelyn Kalinosky on March 1, 2015

  It’s a rainy Sunday here in Lexington. One of those cold, damp, dreary days that makes me want to curl up under a blanket with a hot cup of tea and watch a mini-marathon of Downton Abbey. It’s the kind of day that makes me think of times in my life when I’ve hid from what […]

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Chai Tea, Habits vs. Rituals, and a Two-Year Labor of Love

by Evelyn Kalinosky on March 1, 2015

As I was sipping my Chai tea this morning and enjoying my morning ritual of reading poetry before I start my workday, I came across a quote by Mary Oliver: “The patterns of our lives reveal us. Our habits measure us.” It resonated deeply with me, because I know from personal experience that real change requires […]

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Midlife Woman, You Can’t Own Someone Else’s Dreams

by Evelyn Kalinosky on February 12, 2015

New year. New resolutions to commit to that you may or may not have been able to keep, that may go by the wayside before Valentine’s Day, followed by the inevitable guilt and brow-beating your Inner Critic gives you for not sticking to “the plan.” I gave up making New Year’s resolutions years ago when […]

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Midlife Woman: Come Home to YourSELF

by Evelyn Kalinosky on February 6, 2015

Carry your dream like a flame in a vessel Shoulders back Head held high One high-heeled step at a time Forward Always forward   Your dream is fluid, constant, an evolution But it’s not a race Not a test Not an obligation That leads you to achieve The privilege The righteousness Lies in the dream […]

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This Midlife Woman Fired Herself Today

by Evelyn Kalinosky on January 29, 2015

“Tell the negative committee that meets in your head to sit down and shut up.” – Ann Bradford I fired myself today. No two weeks notice. No severance package. No exit interview. I looked at myself in the mirror and in my best Donald Trump imitation mouthed: “You’re fired.” It was a long time coming. […]

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The Lies We Midlife Women Tell Ourselves

by Evelyn Kalinosky on December 4, 2014

We were sitting on the front porch of the house I’d been renting since separating from Husband #2 four months earlier. It was casual conversation, laced with little jewels of familiarity and laughter. I was enjoying that ‘in the moment’ connection with my 28-year old son when he locked those intense blue eyes of his […]

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